In trying to be more productive with my time lately, I’ve been finding so many new things I want to try and keep up with. However, when I get excited about a new project, I tend to focus on it and forget about other ones I had already started…
I decided to go back to what I’ve done before and have a weekday schedule of project types for each day. I actually found my old post from 2012 that had my old schedule listed:
When I decided to make my current one, I had remembered that I used to have one, but I couldn’t remember what it was and hadn’t looked it up. It turns out it was pretty much the same as the previous one! Including the day for hanging out with Jack – I guess I’m pretty consistent in trying to have a dedicated “You have to spend time with me” day 😂 The difference now is that Tuesdays and Thursdays also include going to the gym after work, so the days are moved around based on what I am okay with having less time for:
An interesting thing is that in the blog post about my old schedule, I wrote that I had decided to come up with it “so I don’t get lazy and do nothing when I can’t decide what to do”. The one I have now is almost the opposite – I have too many things I want to do and it gets to be a big mess with nothing getting finished if I don’t have focused days!
I haven’t quite decided if writing this blog post today is on schedule or off schedule – I usually put it in my planner for a weekend. I guess writing a blog post would kind of fall under journaling.
And now, Juggernaut:
Prime Day has been pretty mediocre the last few years. This year I just got some books and a set of watercolor brush pens.
This was my first attempt at using them on normal printer paper. I started with the big flower, then the Pusheen, the Jack, and finally the rose. The rose isn’t terrible. Dragon placed her paw in the photo for scale.
After that I decided to get watercolor paper to see if it would be better. I feel like the watercolor paper attempt didn’t come out as good as the rose on printer paper – I got impatient and didn’t wait for various parts of it to dry, so some of the colors got blended together that I didn’t intend to blend… so I decided to outline it with a thick Sharpie to try to hide the weird blended parts. It did not work.
We recently took a vacation to London, Paris, and Edinburgh – May 27th to June 11th.
Yes, in that strange order.
We don’t go on many vacations, so I wanted to fit in as much as I could, since it is highly unlikely we would ever go back together (though I’ve been to London and Edinburgh before, in high school). I was worried I might get too overwhelmed partway through – being around lots of people and trying to be out and about the majority of the day are literally the opposite of what I would describe as my ideal day. However, I decided to just plan for it and try to power through it… even knowing I had to go straight back to work afterward and wouldn’t have any recharge time at all.
Before I started the planning for each day, we had already made some dinner reservations we needed to make early. This included one Michelin-starred restaurant in each city:
We started off making a Google map of each city and putting in the reservations we already had. I made layers for each day of our trip, and put those locations on the appropriate layers. Then we each added things we wanted to do on a “Planning” layer – with color-coded icons, of course. Using the map, I planned specific days we would do specific things, with location being a very large factor.
Finally these were moved to a Google calendar. I color-coded them:
Unfortunately, it seems like color-coding in a Google calendar can only be seen by you even if you share the calendar, so Jack couldn’t even make use of the colors. I also left the time zone as my local time zone but found that you can add a secondary time zone for reference, so I added London’s time. Unfortunately that also seems to only apply to yourself, so Jack had to add it separately for his view.
And now, one photo from each city
In January, I wrote about how I more clearly understood my need for recharge time after being around people. My recharge time typically would involve just sitting around on the couch lazing around, using my phone, not really doing anything “productive”.
I say “productive” because it is productive to me as I need the recharge time to continue so I am gaining something positive from it, but from the outside it looks like I’m just wasting my time. However, I decided to try to be more actively “productive” by working on projects or reading more often. This was part of the reason I decided to do a challenge every month. In addition, I decided to finally go through two books I had bought in 2011/2012 – Seven Languages in Seven Weeks and Seven Databases in Seven Weeks.
I am very motivated by lists and can tend to feel (overly and unnecessarily) like I failed if I don’t complete lists that I give time restrictions to, so I tracked these productivity projects in my planner, written on specific days, with little checkboxes that I had to check off. I figured this would give me the motivation to do everything.
January, February, and March, I decided on challenges that required me to do something daily (daily yoga video, daily donation, daily wiki page). It started off okay – the daily yoga video was a structured 30-day challenge so I didn’t need to make any decisions other than deciding what time of day I should fit it into. We went on a short weekend trip, but I was still able to do the daily video while on the trip, so I got through it pretty smoothly.
February started to get a bit more stressful. Before starting the month, I had already made a list of potential places I could donate to, and also asked for suggestions on Facebook. I wanted to write a bit about all of them in Facebook posts, and especially for ones that I had a specific connection to, give more information about them and donate to them on relevant dates (for instance, donating to the National Organization for Rare Disorders (NORD) on Rare Disease Day). Even though I had a pre-made list, it has hard for me to decided which donations should go on which days – sometimes I spent up to an hour trying to decide on a donation because I knew I couldn’t get through all of the ones on my list in the month, and I wanted to prioritize ones that I felt were more important to me. I also stressed myself out because typically after work I want to just relax and sit on the couch and just browse Reddit or play some games, but I had to make sure to do my donation and post before midnight in order to do it on that exact date.
March I actually got behind on reading some of the daily wiki pages. I read the ones featured by Wikipedia each day, and sometimes the topics were just very boring to me (you should read about Ferugliotherium and their teeth). Since I wasn’t doing anything public about them like a daily Facebook post, I actually felt less stressed about being behind, and would just catch up on them a day or two later. Here I discovered how much being publicly accountable for things puts stress and motivation on me – not just in situations where it’s my responsibility and people are depending on me such as at work, which I knew about before, but even where I just arbitrarily gave myself some public deadline and no one else even knew or gave a shit about it.
Having discovered this, I decided to give myself a much more relaxed April challenge – each week, restart a conversation with an old friend, and also send a postcard to a friend. That was definitely less stressful… but remember the two books above that I also decided to finally get through? I decided to start the Seven Languages book in February. Each language involves a short intro, 3 days of info + homework, and a short wrap-up. I split these into 3 days a week (intro + day 1, day 2, day 3 + wrap-up) and slotted them into days we don’t go to the gym. I got through Seven Languages smoothly, and Seven Databases started off pretty smoothly…
But then this month (April) we went on a 5-day trip where I did not do any of the book at all. Of course after being on a trip I needed recharge time, but we came back in the middle of the week so I had to go straight back to work the next day and didn’t get the full relaxing I needed. Instead, did the relaxing after work and put off catching up on the Seven Databases book… and it just got put off further and further. I got really stressed and anxious and panicky – the last few days were not pretty. Seeing the empty checkboxes and having visual confirmation that I was very behind on things (there were other month tasks I was behind on too because of the trip) put a lot of pressure on me, and the more anxious and panicky I got the less I felt like doing any of it so I wasn’t even slowly catching up.
Slowly though I’m getting my previous tasks done… today, 15 days after we left for the trip, I am finally caught up on the Seven Databases book up to the point I had pre-planned to. I still have other things I’m behind on though. I’m trying to get over putting so much pressure on myself for these things – it’s not that big of a deal! I literally just made up the dates I wanted to do them on! It’s okay to be behind!
I’m trying to find a balance – lists definitely get me to do things (no list is just me sitting around thinking about the things I should probably do), but too much listing stresses me out a lot. I think part of it is that I’m using a pre-made year-long planner, and I fill it out a month at a time – one of my weekly tasks (that I am going to be behind on because I was supposed to do it today but I need to go to bed soon) is, on the last weekend of the month, to fill out the monthly challenge and monthly tasks for the next month. However, this means that if anything comes up and is unexpected, it throws up to an entire month off and gets me stressed about being behind and not checking off all the little checkboxes.
I’m still using this planner because I went and bought a customized one with my name on it so I feel like I need to use it entirely to get my full worth out of it. But on the side I am also using a separate blank notebook to do some bullet journal trackers – after this planner is done with (omg it feels like so far away, 8 more months…) I’m going to switch fully over to the blank notebook and do more of the bullet journal system for daily planning. From the ways I’ve seen people do it, I’ve tried to think of a system that would work for me, and I think I will have a yearly summary page, where I can put dates and tasks that come up and have a deadline in future months. This will just be a general aggregate page. Then when a month is coming up, I will create a monthly summary page, where I migrate the dates/tasks for that month from the yearly summary, and can also add more dates/tasks as they come up in the month. Then I will have a weekly spread as a week comes up, where I migrate dates/tasks from the monthly summary, and actually put down per day of the week the tasks I will do on those days, with checkboxes. If things don’t get done in a week, I’ll migrate them to the next week and mark them as “resolved” – that way even if it’s not done I don’t feel like it’s unaccounted for and I need to keep going back and stressing about it. Hopefully this way I’ll only have one weekly spread I need to look at at a time, and I don’t pre-schedule things too far ahead and stress myself out.
This was very long. I’ll be honest, I just wrote this because one of my monthly tasks that I’m behind on is to write a blog post once a month, and it’s coming up very close to the end of April. Luckily this also made me a bit less stressed out though, especially writing out how I’m planning on using a bullet journal to solve the stress I’m putting on myself. Also I am definitely now more convinced that I really need that time just sitting around on the couch, and am going to try to stop stressing that I’m “wasting time” when I use that relaxation time.
Anyway, that’s the end of my brain dump.
For my February monthly challenge, I decided to donate a small amount to something different every day. It was a mix of organizations I already knew and cared about, and others that I discovered or were suggested to me. I wrote a small bit (okay sometimes it was a large bit) about them on Facebook each day, and tried to donate on relevant days if there were any (for instance, the 28th was Rare Disease Day) to make it more interesting. My goal was to not only expand my knowledge of organizations doing good stuff, but also spread knowledge and awareness of them. It was interesting to look into the organizations and learn more about them – hopefully you also discover something new and interesting in this list!
I decided to do a Year in Pixels for 2018 (basically a daily mood tracker), and just finished up January:
It’s a bit hard to figure out the dates, because I had deliberately not put months/days to keep it cleaner. I may add them later though; it’s getting annoying to count them out to double check the date.
I also did one for Jack:
There was a weekend that we were in Tahoe (the large green chunk in my tracker), and when I asked Jack for his mood to fill his in, it seemed a bit like he was just saying he was happy because he felt like he had to since he spent the weekend on a trip with me (something that he denies). It made me think about the days I was marking as happy, and I realized that I didn’t necessarily actually feel happy. I was doing things that I wanted to do, on a trip having fun, and it felt like I should feel happy, so I had marked those as happy. But I realized I didn’t really feel that much happier than a normal day – to be honest, all of those happy days were probably really neutral days.
So in reality, my month was pretty much just chugging along and being pretty meh the whole time.
After we got back from Tahoe, I tried to think of things that actually made me feel happy, and this is what I had come up with at the time:
Cat snuggles, sleeping in, and snuggles are pretty passive and more about just relaxing – I think it would probably be more appropriate to say that I am content in those cases, rather than happy.
Skiing amongst trees was something I only remembered because we had just gone skiing; it made me think of one time years ago in Idaho when I was skiing somewhere further away from the more popular runs, and for some reason I was by myself. This was many many years ago, probably middle school, and the Lord of the Rings movies were very new. It was just me skiing in an area where the path was narrower and there were more dense trees around, and in my head I just heard Lord of the Rings music. I had a sense of wonderment, and felt very calm and connected, just surrounded by nature.
Going to Penguins games is something I can definitely say makes me very happy. It’s really exciting to be at the game watching everything happen. It’s a lot of fun to be around everyone else cheering or booing along with you, with no obligation to actually talk to any of them. Even though I have to be around large crowds of people, the excitement and happiness outweighs the feelings of being overwhelmed and exhausted, and the lack of actual interaction with strangers is relieving to me.
I figure I should probably try to do more things that make me happy, after this very blah January retrospective, so I asked Jack what makes him happy and what he thinks makes me happy.
For Jack, he is happy playing games, especially with friends. He is also happy when he drinks and plays games with friends, or drinks and talks about thought-provoking topics with friends. Personally, hanging out with friends is fun for me, but I think it’s overall more neutral than happy because being around people, paying attention to so many conversations and reactions and anticipating if people need something (especially when we’re hosting) or watching out for when people are done with things so I can clean and get them out of the way (when hosting) makes me exhausted, and I need recovery time afterward to just stay in and not do anything.
The only new thing we could come up with that makes me happy was eating good food. However this is not very practical to do often, as all the instances of good food where I was very happy were expensive fancy places.
In writing this and reading back through it, I think I’ve found the disconnect between when I have fun and when I’m happy. Having fun for me is something that is very in-the-moment, but there are consequences to the fun, especially since being around people drains me. So I can have a lot of fun but not end up being overall happy, because I’m exhausted and I need recharge time. The cases where I’m happy are situations where I have fun but don’t get as drained, or where I get recharged (as it seems like being surrounded by nature may do, or just lazing around at home doing nothing).
So perhaps I should not be measuring purely just how happy I am? It would be a very boring life if I was happy but not also having a lot of fun. Maybe I should start splitting my tracker to track both mood and level of fun, and keep mood more honest to how I’m feeling overall, but also track when I had moments of fun.
I don’t really have a specific plan to make February more happy, but being aware of fun vs happiness will hopefully help me find ways to increase happiness.
So I guess the answer to what makes me happy is that I don’t know, but I’ll make sure to have fun finding out! (Wow that was so cheesy)
It’s a new year, and the day before work starts again.
All I’ve done today is rest and relax, only leaving the house to go to the gym and pick up some food. Did some Blogilates after I woke up, ate a light lunch while reading Hedy’s Folly, wrote in my planner/journals, watched the Pens @ Flyers game (Fuck the Flyers), worked on the weight average app I’m making for myself, went to the gym, ate dinner, did some cross stitch, did the second day of the YOU-NICORN 30-day workbook, did the second day of the OmStars 30-day yoga challenge, and read a chapter of War and Peace.
Even though I think I’ve always needed it, it hasn’t been until this last year that I’ve really put into a conscious thought and words my need for recharge time. I guess that it’s pretty classical introversion, though I never really connected it together before. When we take vacations, if we’re coming home the day before we go to work, I prefer not to come home too late so that I can just sit around on the couch for at least a few hours doing nothing important. For this long holiday break, even though I’ve had days in the middle to just rest and relax at home, I pre-reserved the last day to just spend at home doing my own thing. Even just going out for dinner takes energy away from me; being around people, even if not talking to them, makes me really tired. Being in very loud and energetic environments is stressful and completely drains me.
In fact, even though I’ve been at my current job for over 5 years and am very comfortable and familiar with what I do and the people around me, so I don’t have the anxiety of finding my place and getting used to people, I come home exhausted just from being around everyone. Jack used to ask me why I just sit around and do nothing so often, and I think it came from that that I gradually had to put it into words that I need to just sit and re-energize. Even if we’re hanging out with friends we like, even if we’re out doing something fun that doesn’t involve interacting with the people surrounding us, just being around the people is a lot for me. I need mini home vacations after actual vacations where I’m continually surrounded by people.
I bought the book Quiet in 2012 but I never got around to reading it. Seems like it should be the next on my list.
Anyway, I decided this post is also a good chance to look back on the cross stitching I’ve done this past year.
Recently StackOverflow released an article about how developers that use spaces make more money than developers who use tabs. They found this to be true even when taking into account factors such as years of experience, language, and country. Another article took an even deeper look at the data, and while it also pointed out some additional correlated factors (open source projects and version control), it also couldn’t fully explain the difference.
Obviously, nobody is saying that switching to tabs tomorrow will guarantee you a raise at your next performance review. There are a million other more important things that affect the quality of a code project. I believe we can safely declare that this is correlation, not causation. However, it’s such a large difference that it’s hard to ignore. There must be some underlying reason for this delta.
Anytime the topic of coding style appears, developers will rush to support their preferred method, often with religious-like zeal. Just peruse the hackernews post about the aforementioned StackOverflow article and you’ll find a great deal of animated discussion covering the advantages and disadvantages of both methods. What I find more interesting is not the actual pros and cons, but the motivation behind them.
Let’s google “tabs vs spaces” and select the first result, conveniently another StackExchange question. It generally boils down to two major arguments.
Both have advantages and it’s entirely personal preference which advantage you place greater value on. So let’s ignore that and instead focus on the reasoning behind the argument. Tab users want to be able to customize how their code looks. They prefer some specific width and want their editor to use that. Space users are concerned about the code looking inconsistent. Tabs can create readability problems due to code looking misaligned across different editors with different tab widths.
There is a fundamental difference in the motivation behind these two statements. One is arguing about personal preference, while the other is arguing about code readability. One generally only benefits yourself, while the other is concerned about the entire team. Simply put, tabs vs spaces is a debate over whether developers should have to surrender their personal preference for the benefit of the team.
As a software developer, you will often be forced to do things you disagree with. You have to adhere to coding styles that are different than what you are used to, work in languages you hate, and move forward with an idea you think is worse than your own. The ability to accept something you disagree with is a valuable skill when working with a team. Flexibility and open mindedness make you easier to work with and also benefits the team overall. This translates to better engineers who get paid more.
So the next time you have to make a decision that impacts your entire team, don’t just go with what you like the most. Take a moment to consider what is best for everyone involved, even if the decision is something as trivial as tabs vs spaces.
There is typically another argument for tabs that states that they take less bytes to represent, resulting in a smaller file size and potentially faster performance. I think technology is past the point where we need to be concerned about saving a few bytes here and there in our source code, especially with tools that do code obfuscation/minification.